1 00:00:53,860 --> 00:00:58,200 Today we are speaking with Clarity Consultant, Kyle Smith. 2 00:00:58,580 --> 00:01:03,010 He has a podcast, Limitless Life Podcast. 3 00:01:03,210 --> 00:01:06,380 Kyle, could you please introduce yourself and let people know a 4 00:01:06,380 --> 00:01:07,620 little more about you, please? 5 00:01:08,269 --> 00:01:09,260 Sure, sure. 6 00:01:09,550 --> 00:01:11,830 Uh, like, like you mentioned, my name is Kyle Smith. 7 00:01:11,930 --> 00:01:14,670 Uh, I'm a Clarity Consultant, that's what my role is. 8 00:01:15,220 --> 00:01:21,115 Uh, and I help folks get unstuck, celebrate their wins, and, uh, create 9 00:01:21,145 --> 00:01:25,765 goals that inspire them, and get them done in less time, in short. 10 00:01:28,415 --> 00:01:33,534 That's, that's kinda nice because we all get stuck, and 11 00:01:34,014 --> 00:01:36,264 we need help a lot of the times. 12 00:01:37,264 --> 00:01:42,484 I actually want to go on a mass conversation with you, but I do want 13 00:01:42,505 --> 00:01:50,624 you to cover what NLSE is for people before we get into our conversation. 14 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:52,830 Yeah, sure. 15 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:58,340 NLSE is a practice that I've developed over the last couple of years and it's a 16 00:01:58,350 --> 00:02:00,660 combination of story work and breath work. 17 00:02:00,669 --> 00:02:03,140 It's to hit the brain and to hit the body. 18 00:02:04,130 --> 00:02:08,619 And breaking it down, NLSE, neuro linguistic somatic experience. 19 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:14,780 Starting with the N, it's neuro, meaning of the mind, also of the nervous system, 20 00:02:14,790 --> 00:02:20,019 the neurons, and specifically what I help folks with is their mindset. 21 00:02:20,545 --> 00:02:24,774 And mindset is important, we understand that mindset is important. 22 00:02:24,925 --> 00:02:27,785 However, there's not a working definition, so it's ambiguous, 23 00:02:27,825 --> 00:02:29,114 there's nothing to reference. 24 00:02:29,715 --> 00:02:33,154 So I define mindset as the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves 25 00:02:33,185 --> 00:02:35,025 or our opinion of ourselves. 26 00:02:36,105 --> 00:02:39,744 Now, when we have that, we can think higher or lesser of ourselves 27 00:02:40,005 --> 00:02:41,394 and we can adjust accordingly. 28 00:02:42,925 --> 00:02:45,335 Uh, so that's diving into the neuro. 29 00:02:45,785 --> 00:02:49,285 Then the linguistics, the language, are the things that we say, 30 00:02:49,565 --> 00:02:52,785 write, think, and how we breathe. 31 00:02:52,985 --> 00:02:54,365 Breath is the language of the body. 32 00:02:55,025 --> 00:02:58,195 So for the words part, with the stories, uh, what we say, write, and 33 00:02:58,195 --> 00:03:02,165 think, uh, words, and before this I was a personal trainer, so I used 34 00:03:02,165 --> 00:03:07,744 fitness references, and this one is, uh, similar to how the physical body, 35 00:03:07,935 --> 00:03:11,865 is built up off of macronutrients, carbohydrates, fats, and proteins. 36 00:03:12,365 --> 00:03:15,075 The quality of the carbohydrates, and fats, and proteins that we 37 00:03:15,075 --> 00:03:19,834 consume is going to impact or influence the state of our body. 38 00:03:21,004 --> 00:03:24,874 Our words are no different, words are the ethereal macronutrients of the mind. 39 00:03:25,105 --> 00:03:28,525 If we feed our mind quality words, we're going to have quality thoughts. 40 00:03:28,545 --> 00:03:31,005 If we feed our mind shit words, we're going to have shit thoughts. 41 00:03:32,144 --> 00:03:35,305 And so it's getting people to think about their thinking, with 42 00:03:35,305 --> 00:03:36,404 the words that they're saying. 43 00:03:37,005 --> 00:03:40,265 Uh, how about, uh, the breath is the language of the body. 44 00:03:40,385 --> 00:03:42,434 When we're breathing high and tight, we're good to fight. 45 00:03:42,434 --> 00:03:44,204 When we're breathing low and slow, we're good to flow. 46 00:03:45,545 --> 00:03:50,165 So when we can take a second, and we could be in a certain setting 47 00:03:50,165 --> 00:03:51,704 where we're good, we're comfortable. 48 00:03:52,114 --> 00:03:55,635 And then we take a notice of ourselves and we're breathing up into our chest, 49 00:03:55,644 --> 00:04:00,515 we have shallow breath, and our body could be saying something to us like 50 00:04:00,534 --> 00:04:02,115 there's something, there's something here. 51 00:04:02,825 --> 00:04:06,605 And then we can look around, we can say, No, we are safe. 52 00:04:07,665 --> 00:04:11,495 Big breath in, let it out and down, regulate. 53 00:04:12,045 --> 00:04:19,930 So it's like if, uh, if our physical body is like a child or an animal, it'll be 54 00:04:19,930 --> 00:04:23,860 like look at this, look at this, look at this, look at this, look at this, look 55 00:04:23,860 --> 00:04:26,599 at this, and it's like, no, no, no, we don't need to look at that right now. 56 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:27,870 Let's, let's calm it down. 57 00:04:27,990 --> 00:04:28,759 Let's calm it down. 58 00:04:29,599 --> 00:04:34,009 And so with the breath, we can talk to our body and our body can speak 59 00:04:34,009 --> 00:04:36,130 to us and we can have a conversation. 60 00:04:36,830 --> 00:04:38,290 So that's how linguistics ties in. 61 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:41,630 Uh, somatic, soma, is of the body. 62 00:04:42,570 --> 00:04:46,830 And that's the physical body, which is passive, we don't need to really 63 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:49,870 actively get involved with many things. 64 00:04:49,870 --> 00:04:52,159 So for example, uh, we cut our finger. 65 00:04:52,700 --> 00:04:55,700 Our body is time bound, it's going to heal itself over time. 66 00:04:55,700 --> 00:04:57,150 It doesn't involve us. 67 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:00,980 Uh, there's other aspects of our body, like the autonomic nervous system, 68 00:05:00,980 --> 00:05:02,750 where we don't get any involvement. 69 00:05:02,750 --> 00:05:05,390 It's completely passive, minus the lungs. 70 00:05:05,669 --> 00:05:09,150 The lungs are the only thing that is a part of our autonomic nervous system. 71 00:05:09,159 --> 00:05:13,910 So our heart, our breathing, our digestion, our recovery, uh, 72 00:05:14,020 --> 00:05:16,410 bowel movements, all of these things are, we don't really 73 00:05:16,410 --> 00:05:18,270 need to actively get involved. 74 00:05:18,805 --> 00:05:21,605 Uh, it'd be kind of weird where if I was sitting here and I, I 75 00:05:21,605 --> 00:05:22,875 was like, Hold on two seconds. 76 00:05:25,145 --> 00:05:28,145 Okay, yeah, I totally stopped my heartbeat for those two seconds. 77 00:05:28,145 --> 00:05:28,955 That doesn't happen. 78 00:05:30,024 --> 00:05:33,505 The breath we can get in there, the breath we can influence our body with. 79 00:05:34,254 --> 00:05:38,614 Uh, and so the physical body, that's passive, where we can just recover. 80 00:05:39,175 --> 00:05:43,284 And then there's the energetic body that is timeless. 81 00:05:43,664 --> 00:05:47,785 And the energetic body would be, uh, our emotions. 82 00:05:47,855 --> 00:05:50,035 So emotion, energy in motion. 83 00:05:50,655 --> 00:05:54,384 And that's timeless, it's not time bound. 84 00:05:54,395 --> 00:05:56,445 So over time it doesn't recover itself. 85 00:05:56,945 --> 00:06:02,424 So with those stories, those experiences, those moments, whether they hurt, haunt, 86 00:06:02,454 --> 00:06:05,604 taunt, annoy, they're ones that we want to celebrate and create meaning 87 00:06:05,614 --> 00:06:06,994 or we're working towards something. 88 00:06:07,564 --> 00:06:10,965 They're gonna have, uh, feelings attached to them. 89 00:06:11,620 --> 00:06:15,970 And if those feelings have lingered long enough, they're going to stay in the body. 90 00:06:16,230 --> 00:06:20,650 And we could experience something from decades ago and we can experience it now 91 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:23,010 as if we're there, which is not accurate. 92 00:06:24,459 --> 00:06:29,800 And so when we go into the energetic body and into the physical body and 93 00:06:29,830 --> 00:06:36,880 into the mind, to be able to alleviate our body of all this pent up energy, 94 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:42,585 of all this negative narrative, all this talk, uh, all the smack talk, 95 00:06:42,895 --> 00:06:46,125 it's not even self talk, it's just smack talk, when we start to filter 96 00:06:46,125 --> 00:06:51,474 through all those, then what happens is we shift how we feel about ourselves. 97 00:06:51,474 --> 00:06:53,354 We feel in the moment, different. 98 00:06:53,364 --> 00:06:57,695 And so NLSE, Experience, E, it happens real time. 99 00:06:57,744 --> 00:07:00,875 People feel the experience and the emotions changing, 100 00:07:01,434 --> 00:07:02,845 Uh as they do this practice. 101 00:07:04,975 --> 00:07:05,835 I like that a lot. 102 00:07:06,085 --> 00:07:12,034 I've, I've been studying and practicing NLP for quite some time. 103 00:07:12,355 --> 00:07:18,565 And it really piqued my interest when that, NLSE, what, what is this? 104 00:07:18,965 --> 00:07:21,505 So thank you for sharing that, Kyle. 105 00:07:21,544 --> 00:07:22,765 It was very interesting. 106 00:07:23,775 --> 00:07:28,455 Uh, I want to talk to you about our world. 107 00:07:28,730 --> 00:07:34,390 Because I can tell Kyle is a very deep thinker and, you know, the 108 00:07:34,490 --> 00:07:37,390 stoic thought really helps our world. 109 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:43,919 Mass overload, our world is just filled with everything. 110 00:07:43,930 --> 00:07:51,489 And, you know, we, we, consume so much information, and luxury, and 111 00:07:51,500 --> 00:07:57,640 goods, and, you know, beach trips and everything is just massively 112 00:07:57,669 --> 00:08:01,289 overloading our sensories, our mind. 113 00:08:02,319 --> 00:08:11,970 And I have found out over the last ten to twenty years, less is way more. 114 00:08:12,460 --> 00:08:19,219 And, and if we bring it back to ourself and we, like you've kind of laid out 115 00:08:19,219 --> 00:08:24,060 there, if we just slow down, and we don't have to get involved with all 116 00:08:24,060 --> 00:08:30,579 of that, and know that, that you're okay if you're not part of everything. 117 00:08:31,420 --> 00:08:34,469 I want to talk a little bit about that and what are your 118 00:08:34,510 --> 00:08:36,480 thoughts on that subject, Kyle? 119 00:08:38,109 --> 00:08:40,339 That is such a cool question, dude. 120 00:08:40,449 --> 00:08:42,329 Uh, and it's something that I have thought of. 121 00:08:43,190 --> 00:08:50,760 Uh, I think that there is a lot of noise and distraction. 122 00:08:52,030 --> 00:09:02,589 And it's, I believe that when we are trying to be a part of everything, we're 123 00:09:02,589 --> 00:09:04,270 not choosing to be a part of something. 124 00:09:05,659 --> 00:09:08,560 Because we're spreading ourself too thin, and we're not going to 125 00:09:08,569 --> 00:09:13,170 be able to, be able to be a part of the solution of the problem. 126 00:09:14,410 --> 00:09:19,080 So what I find is folks want to bring awareness to everything, they don't 127 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:20,660 want to actually solve the problem. 128 00:09:22,420 --> 00:09:27,669 So I think that what decreases distraction is when we find a problem 129 00:09:27,669 --> 00:09:31,280 that we actually want to work on, so our problem becomes our passion. 130 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:35,590 And when we're a part of that problem solving, then we don't 131 00:09:35,590 --> 00:09:37,170 need to worry about distractions. 132 00:09:37,560 --> 00:09:42,780 And, honestly, I heard this one, uh, my lady told me it the other day, 133 00:09:42,850 --> 00:09:46,230 coach of ours actually shared it, and he referred it to food, but I believe 134 00:09:46,230 --> 00:09:51,240 it applies to everything, Where the more exciting life gets, and he said 135 00:09:51,240 --> 00:09:52,879 food, the more simple food gets. 136 00:09:53,290 --> 00:09:58,060 We can expand that, The more exciting life gets, the more simple life gets. 137 00:10:00,230 --> 00:10:02,730 Or more exciting life gets, the more simple life gets. 138 00:10:03,450 --> 00:10:12,100 And when we have all this information and there's this perceived expectation 139 00:10:12,100 --> 00:10:17,395 to be a part of everything, I think that that's not helpful. 140 00:10:17,845 --> 00:10:21,415 People can do that if they wish, but I don't think it's actually useful. 141 00:10:21,715 --> 00:10:24,825 It's not being a part of it if people are spreading themselves thin. 142 00:10:25,025 --> 00:10:28,815 I think start one thing, solve the problem, do the next thing, solve 143 00:10:28,815 --> 00:10:30,005 the problem, do the next thing. 144 00:10:30,305 --> 00:10:33,335 And have those problems be things that you're really excited to solve. 145 00:10:33,774 --> 00:10:37,805 Because it alleviates a pain of some sort from either the self or others. 146 00:10:39,835 --> 00:10:44,095 When it comes to the amount of information, I think that it's very, it's 147 00:10:44,095 --> 00:10:48,135 important to be mindful and intentional with the information that we're consuming. 148 00:10:48,814 --> 00:10:52,495 Because if we're consuming information, mostly off of the internet, then 149 00:10:52,495 --> 00:10:54,285 it's not personal information. 150 00:10:54,314 --> 00:10:55,844 It's personalized information. 151 00:10:56,259 --> 00:11:00,759 We're just seeing information to validate our own perceived biases unless we've 152 00:11:00,789 --> 00:11:02,759 trained the algorithm to do otherwise. 153 00:11:02,909 --> 00:11:06,339 Because we can train our algorithm to find information that we want to see. 154 00:11:06,339 --> 00:11:09,509 And say I don't want to watch this, I don't want to see this because it 155 00:11:09,510 --> 00:11:13,040 impacts me in this way, that way, or whatever and then removing the 156 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:14,590 distractions as much as possible. 157 00:11:15,290 --> 00:11:19,839 And by uncluttering and decreasing the amount of stuff, I actually, 158 00:11:20,290 --> 00:11:23,800 saying it with the similar idea of stories, when we declutter the mind, 159 00:11:23,810 --> 00:11:25,059 we have room to throw the party. 160 00:11:26,339 --> 00:11:29,709 When we declutter our life, we have room to throw a fricking party. 161 00:11:30,615 --> 00:11:33,505 And we can really like do some good, good work. 162 00:11:34,415 --> 00:11:34,775 Yeah, 163 00:11:36,975 --> 00:11:38,675 that would be one of my thoughts on it for sure. 164 00:11:40,785 --> 00:11:43,005 Yeah, that, that's a good discovery. 165 00:11:44,545 --> 00:11:44,895 Yeah. 166 00:11:45,105 --> 00:11:49,324 You know, the, the discovery of that is very important for people. 167 00:11:49,465 --> 00:11:53,774 And once they break free from the excitement and the overload, 168 00:11:54,434 --> 00:11:59,305 they can really hone in and focus on what they want to do. 169 00:12:00,505 --> 00:12:06,935 For instance, I have a big, big plan of what I want to achieve, but I 170 00:12:06,945 --> 00:12:09,765 can't achieve all of that at one time. 171 00:12:09,905 --> 00:12:14,345 So I have to break that down and solve one problem, like you just 172 00:12:14,345 --> 00:12:19,825 said, finish that, get it working and then go to the next problem. 173 00:12:20,135 --> 00:12:26,205 And if I concentrate on each problem instead of every problem, 174 00:12:28,425 --> 00:12:30,905 pretty soon, every problem is solved. 175 00:12:31,365 --> 00:12:41,045 And you have wasted no time on the spin of worrying about getting all of it done. 176 00:12:41,955 --> 00:12:47,114 And I think that mass overload, because we're all bombarded with so 177 00:12:47,114 --> 00:12:54,195 much in one day, and I see so many people rushing to get things done. 178 00:12:54,345 --> 00:12:56,065 I have to have this done today. 179 00:12:56,675 --> 00:13:02,075 Well, I remember my cousin giving me a theory. 180 00:13:02,105 --> 00:13:10,244 The 7P principle, Proper Prior Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance. 181 00:13:11,305 --> 00:13:15,345 And I, I really, I really believe in that principle. 182 00:13:15,345 --> 00:13:19,805 And once I took a hold of that, my life changed. 183 00:13:20,015 --> 00:13:27,465 And I really think that planning and, you know, being proper and doing the 184 00:13:27,475 --> 00:13:31,054 prior preparation, that's very important. 185 00:13:33,115 --> 00:13:33,615 Totally. 186 00:13:34,295 --> 00:13:35,575 Yes, absolutely. 187 00:13:35,765 --> 00:13:36,845 I totally agree with that. 188 00:13:37,204 --> 00:13:39,464 And there was another thought that popped up here. 189 00:13:40,140 --> 00:13:43,980 Uh, one point that I wanted to say, there's a, a definition for 190 00:13:43,980 --> 00:13:48,080 intelligence that I really like that has its practical definition of it. 191 00:13:48,810 --> 00:13:54,840 This was three weeks ago that I first heard this, and I really like this one. 192 00:13:55,420 --> 00:14:00,710 An, or uh, the definition of intelligence, an individual that can solve problems. 193 00:14:01,030 --> 00:14:03,050 The better the person is at solving problems, the more 194 00:14:03,050 --> 00:14:04,710 intelligent the individual is. 195 00:14:05,700 --> 00:14:06,680 Yeah, that's good. 196 00:14:07,490 --> 00:14:08,920 It's the same with leadership. 197 00:14:09,620 --> 00:14:12,730 You know, you're a good leader if you can solve problems. 198 00:14:12,970 --> 00:14:17,999 And we, we realize solving problems, sometimes you need 199 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:19,939 a team to solve the problem. 200 00:14:20,449 --> 00:14:25,689 And that's why communication is very important, and understanding 201 00:14:25,880 --> 00:14:28,199 our world is about communication. 202 00:14:28,639 --> 00:14:34,885 And our body is communicating at all times, our, everything 203 00:14:34,885 --> 00:14:36,844 that we do is a communication. 204 00:14:37,125 --> 00:14:41,805 And a lot of people forget that in our busy world today. 205 00:14:41,805 --> 00:14:47,775 There's, there's people really doing some things that, I feel, is pretty 206 00:14:47,854 --> 00:14:51,935 detrimental to our society in many ways. 207 00:14:53,545 --> 00:15:01,875 How do we handle the decline of society while we try to fight for 208 00:15:01,875 --> 00:15:04,585 the inclination of our society? 209 00:15:06,084 --> 00:15:07,944 Ooh, a reflection question on this one. 210 00:15:07,994 --> 00:15:09,905 How am I contributing to the downfall? 211 00:15:11,495 --> 00:15:12,654 How am I contributing to the solution? 212 00:15:12,654 --> 00:15:12,874 You know, 213 00:15:15,255 --> 00:15:19,930 because I, because if we're not actively in it, then it's passively happening. 214 00:15:19,930 --> 00:15:24,819 And I believe that when we're not doing the thing, what happens is 215 00:15:24,819 --> 00:15:27,060 we've veered towards psychic entropy. 216 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:29,089 We veer towards chaos. 217 00:15:29,109 --> 00:15:33,819 Chaos is the natural order if we're not imposing our own order. 218 00:15:34,789 --> 00:15:40,400 And it's similar to if someone were to look into the mirror, and 219 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:42,010 people can be upset with this, 220 00:15:42,099 --> 00:15:45,240 I don't think it's that crazy, I believe that when people look in the 221 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:48,010 mirror, they know when they're being a winner or they're being a loser. 222 00:15:48,410 --> 00:15:50,890 They know when they've improved today and when they've slacked today. 223 00:15:50,890 --> 00:15:54,750 And I believe being honest, am I being a part of the solution or the problem? 224 00:15:54,810 --> 00:16:01,289 Because there's an idea that I like where, uh, it's how 225 00:16:01,290 --> 00:16:03,370 there's optimism and pessimism. 226 00:16:04,230 --> 00:16:13,240 And a core characteristic of a pessimist is not seeing the potential in the future. 227 00:16:15,370 --> 00:16:18,960 An optimist is a person that's a part of the solving. 228 00:16:19,820 --> 00:16:22,750 An optimist is a part of the problem solving towards the future. 229 00:16:23,300 --> 00:16:26,689 So when someone's a part of the solution, then they see the solution. 230 00:16:26,689 --> 00:16:28,579 When someone's a part of the problem, they only see the problem. 231 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:30,689 Yeah. 232 00:16:31,129 --> 00:16:31,369 Yeah. 233 00:16:31,689 --> 00:16:35,180 You know, it takes teamwork to fix what's going on in our world. 234 00:16:35,180 --> 00:16:40,559 And so, so many people are caught up into a financial competition. 235 00:16:41,280 --> 00:16:47,115 And I, I really, you know, everybody needs money, but I, I think we all 236 00:16:47,115 --> 00:16:52,365 need more humanity in our world, and understanding, and caring for one another. 237 00:16:52,744 --> 00:16:57,835 And that means building trust and empathy at the same time. 238 00:16:59,285 --> 00:17:06,464 And I'm finding that harder and harder to grasp in these days. 239 00:17:06,534 --> 00:17:11,155 And I'm, I'm just interested on other people's thoughts on that. 240 00:17:13,470 --> 00:17:13,829 Mm hmm. 241 00:17:13,900 --> 00:17:14,339 Mm hmm. 242 00:17:17,520 --> 00:17:19,530 Uh, shift the focus. 243 00:17:19,930 --> 00:17:22,100 I'm going to answer it on the fly because this is a cool question. 244 00:17:22,990 --> 00:17:25,040 The, the simple, and it's the simple one. 245 00:17:25,609 --> 00:17:29,780 It'd be to shift the focus from vanity metrics to metrics that matter. 246 00:17:31,780 --> 00:17:37,089 So we can, we can have like bank account measuring contests all we want, 247 00:17:37,379 --> 00:17:40,830 but if the quality of the character and the merit of the character is 248 00:17:42,700 --> 00:17:47,050 not stellar, then it's not going to matter how much money someone has. 249 00:17:47,500 --> 00:17:50,600 Because I don't think that is the amount of money that brings out the 250 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:55,290 person, I believe that money just shows who the person was to begin with. 251 00:17:56,970 --> 00:18:03,670 Uh, and so I think that the focus would be for decreasing vanity metrics, 252 00:18:04,100 --> 00:18:08,289 and then it'd be increasing more of the fulfillment and the feels aspect. 253 00:18:08,299 --> 00:18:12,830 So money is, there's numbers, it's tangible, it's scientific, there's 254 00:18:12,850 --> 00:18:14,460 metrics, it's easy to measure. 255 00:18:14,980 --> 00:18:18,070 How good someone feels on the inside is a little bit more difficult. 256 00:18:19,900 --> 00:18:25,140 And so when we have more people that are aware that they feel better in general, 257 00:18:25,930 --> 00:18:30,250 and they're pursuing them, like the goal that they want to, then people are going 258 00:18:30,250 --> 00:18:32,550 to veer towards each other that way. 259 00:18:34,250 --> 00:18:41,060 And so when we actually shift our focus from, or, we can even, we can maintain 260 00:18:41,379 --> 00:18:45,270 an importance of financials, and that's totally fair, as long as we don't 261 00:18:45,270 --> 00:18:47,540 remove the soul from the character. 262 00:18:47,810 --> 00:18:55,439 The consciousness, the heart, the, it's kind of, it's similar to, other than, 263 00:18:55,519 --> 00:18:59,540 other than, you know, Tony Stark's actual response, but similar to Avengers, 264 00:18:59,590 --> 00:19:01,270 Take away the armor, what are you? 265 00:19:01,300 --> 00:19:02,590 Take away the money, who are you? 266 00:19:02,590 --> 00:19:03,860 Take away the Lambo, who are you? 267 00:19:04,300 --> 00:19:06,350 Uh, give the person money, who are you? 268 00:19:07,675 --> 00:19:07,965 Right? 269 00:19:08,165 --> 00:19:09,385 Works in both directions. 270 00:19:10,075 --> 00:19:13,575 Of course, Tony Stark's a billionaire playboy philanthropist, 271 00:19:13,575 --> 00:19:14,725 but you know, you know, whatever. 272 00:19:15,735 --> 00:19:18,935 I think when we take away the armor, what's, what's left is the, 273 00:19:18,975 --> 00:19:20,395 the truest version of ourselves. 274 00:19:20,395 --> 00:19:26,580 And I believe that when things are stripped away and, even if it's not 275 00:19:26,580 --> 00:19:31,030 like literally, even if there's a metaphorical break, like let's say 276 00:19:31,030 --> 00:19:33,850 it's a weekend retreat or a session or something like that where it's not 277 00:19:33,850 --> 00:19:38,670 even of importance and it's about, or, communication, collaboration, and 278 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:43,919 elevation, then the, the group itself is going to be a bunch of rock stars. 279 00:19:46,959 --> 00:19:54,735 Well, we're really caught up in financial competition instead of 280 00:19:55,545 --> 00:19:57,955 freedom of our mind, our soul. 281 00:19:57,985 --> 00:20:03,115 And we, we really need to have people come together without 282 00:20:03,555 --> 00:20:05,585 that financial competition. 283 00:20:06,265 --> 00:20:08,224 How do we do that? 284 00:20:11,925 --> 00:20:13,784 Absolutely, I would say so. 285 00:20:14,145 --> 00:20:17,135 And then I would also say that the vulnerable point could be 286 00:20:17,545 --> 00:20:19,015 different depending on the person. 287 00:20:19,425 --> 00:20:25,555 So someone could have all the financial accolades while also feeling loss 288 00:20:25,555 --> 00:20:30,875 in their own sense of, uh, their own, they're, they're diving into 289 00:20:30,875 --> 00:20:36,825 their own winter arc. They're diving into their own, uh, dark story. 290 00:20:36,885 --> 00:20:39,555 They're diving into that point where it's going to be like, this 291 00:20:39,565 --> 00:20:40,814 is going to be the time to prove it. 292 00:20:41,685 --> 00:20:44,824 Uh, and then on the opposite end, if someone has nothing, then that's 293 00:20:44,825 --> 00:20:46,274 an opportunity to prove it as well. 294 00:20:46,924 --> 00:20:49,055 I, yeah, that's how I would put that one. 295 00:20:53,465 --> 00:20:53,785 Yeah. 296 00:20:54,335 --> 00:20:54,555 Yeah. 297 00:20:54,705 --> 00:21:02,505 So, so basically the, the best time to really truly know who someone is, is when 298 00:21:02,505 --> 00:21:04,905 they're at their most vulnerable point. 299 00:21:06,474 --> 00:21:07,415 Is that correct? 300 00:21:10,405 --> 00:21:11,765 Yes, it's true. 301 00:21:12,415 --> 00:21:12,785 It's true. 302 00:21:12,824 --> 00:21:17,754 I actually have a, this is my own little mantra, my own little story that 303 00:21:17,804 --> 00:21:22,460 I remind myself if I'm really like, if I find myself in a, in the Stuck 304 00:21:22,460 --> 00:21:27,110 and Suck, I remind myself of this, and it's, Pain is the blacksmith that 305 00:21:27,110 --> 00:21:28,770 forges us into the ultimate weapon. 306 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:34,250 We start out as iron ore, and we're all misshapen, and we're in the earth, and 307 00:21:34,250 --> 00:21:39,479 we're comfy, we're cozy, we're sheltered by the elements, and then either by 308 00:21:39,500 --> 00:21:41,010 choice or by chance, we're found. 309 00:21:41,580 --> 00:21:46,020 So either by choice or by chance, we're ripped out of the ground, or by 310 00:21:46,030 --> 00:21:48,280 choice, we allow ourselves to be found. 311 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:50,670 Ooh, that like flowed real well. 312 00:21:50,740 --> 00:21:51,050 Damn. 313 00:21:51,900 --> 00:21:54,279 Uh, yeah. 314 00:21:54,310 --> 00:21:57,929 It hasn't flowed, it didn't, it didn't flow that well in my brain. 315 00:21:58,209 --> 00:22:01,489 Like, uh, a couple, well, last time I said it, that one was way cooler. 316 00:22:01,999 --> 00:22:06,835 Uh, and so, from that point, the iron ore is melted down, it's put 317 00:22:06,835 --> 00:22:11,445 into, I'll use a sword as an example, it's put into the mold for a sword. 318 00:22:12,045 --> 00:22:16,845 Then that sword is heated up, it's beaten, it's cooled down, it's sharpened, 319 00:22:16,865 --> 00:22:21,245 it's heated up, it's cooled down, it's beaten, it's sharpened, rinse and repeat. 320 00:22:21,525 --> 00:22:27,355 Until eventually the pain that the blacksmith has incurred forges 321 00:22:27,365 --> 00:22:28,755 you into the ultimate weapon. 322 00:22:28,755 --> 00:22:31,065 You become your own Excalibur. 323 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:36,280 So you go from iron ore to Excalibur, and then from Excalibur, 324 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:41,270 you have a knight that's ready to go fight the, fight the dragons. 325 00:22:41,489 --> 00:22:43,409 And the dragon is in the way of the gold. 326 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,420 The dragon is the story, the gold is what we want. 327 00:22:47,490 --> 00:22:53,679 And when we take that sword and we fight that dragon, we feel pain. 328 00:22:54,259 --> 00:22:55,390 There's like an Uhh! 329 00:22:55,419 --> 00:22:58,439 And that's because that dragon is our present self wanting to stay the same. 330 00:22:59,869 --> 00:23:03,489 So by inflicting that pain, we're forging ourselves, we're sharpening ourselves. 331 00:23:03,829 --> 00:23:06,039 And it's not crazy, it's not a huge amount of pain. 332 00:23:06,109 --> 00:23:08,549 And pain, when people think of it, it's like, Oh, it's excruciating. 333 00:23:08,599 --> 00:23:10,279 No, it's just discomfort. 334 00:23:10,979 --> 00:23:12,409 And just, it's all good. 335 00:23:12,509 --> 00:23:13,029 It's all good. 336 00:23:13,929 --> 00:23:16,229 I'm sure you've lived through crazier shenanigans. 337 00:23:16,869 --> 00:23:20,749 Uh, and then from there, I actually think of it where rather than 338 00:23:20,749 --> 00:23:26,129 slaying the dragon, rather than slaying the story, own the story. 339 00:23:26,810 --> 00:23:28,230 Become the Dragon Rider. 340 00:23:28,270 --> 00:23:31,760 So you get the Dragon Ride, you get to be the Dragon Rider, and you get the gold. 341 00:23:33,129 --> 00:23:36,740 And that's by taking the stories, owning the stories, and then allowing 342 00:23:36,740 --> 00:23:38,389 them to no longer have power over us. 343 00:23:38,389 --> 00:23:39,610 And we have power over them. 344 00:23:39,629 --> 00:23:44,159 And stories are experiences, memories, moments, uh, traumas, hurts, haunts, 345 00:23:44,159 --> 00:23:48,550 taunts, ouchie stories, awesome stories, death stories, dreams. 346 00:23:48,860 --> 00:23:49,620 I've done a couple things. 347 00:23:50,949 --> 00:23:53,969 Yeah, it all builds into an inspiration. 348 00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:58,149 And, and once you find that inspiration, it is a passion. 349 00:23:58,739 --> 00:24:04,830 And I found once you hone into that and start doing it, that's the 350 00:24:04,830 --> 00:24:11,139 trick, doing it, and you turn that passion into remarkable things. 351 00:24:11,605 --> 00:24:18,395 It can, it can change the world, even if it's one story at a time. 352 00:24:18,755 --> 00:24:23,645 And that's kind of what we do with podcasting, you know, we, we learn to 353 00:24:23,665 --> 00:24:26,825 bring out the best instead of the worst. 354 00:24:27,325 --> 00:24:34,324 We can focus on all of that, but when we get on the microphone and 355 00:24:34,324 --> 00:24:38,965 we start presenting to people, it's really about the passion 356 00:24:38,975 --> 00:24:41,819 that we have to change the world. 357 00:24:42,099 --> 00:24:45,279 There's something wrong in our eyes, our feeling. 358 00:24:45,699 --> 00:24:50,159 And that's what we're trying to do, there is no competition in that. 359 00:24:50,370 --> 00:24:53,949 That's just, that's that community. 360 00:24:54,500 --> 00:24:59,460 You know, when, when we find community in that, that's when we really can 361 00:24:59,470 --> 00:25:02,280 start being the best we can be. 362 00:25:04,669 --> 00:25:06,079 Agreed, agreed. 363 00:25:06,659 --> 00:25:11,679 And I do think that, like when we find the community, it's also an extension 364 00:25:11,679 --> 00:25:13,659 of the work that we've done ourselves. 365 00:25:14,089 --> 00:25:15,769 Uh, cause game recognizes game. 366 00:25:16,620 --> 00:25:21,320 When people are pursuing something where they want to do their part to 367 00:25:22,340 --> 00:25:28,149 be a positive contribution to the human race, then what happens is, when 368 00:25:28,149 --> 00:25:32,330 we're that better person, then we're going to attract more better people. 369 00:25:32,379 --> 00:25:40,004 And those people that are not helping us towards our, or supporting us 370 00:25:40,044 --> 00:25:46,415 towards our pursuit, they will just fall to the side and that's okay. 371 00:25:46,415 --> 00:25:47,414 And that's okay. 372 00:25:49,625 --> 00:25:51,575 That's right, that's right. 373 00:25:52,315 --> 00:26:00,185 You know, I, I have this muddy shoe theory and, We, we are like a shoe 374 00:26:00,620 --> 00:26:03,239 and life is like a muddy trail. 375 00:26:03,939 --> 00:26:08,259 And the mud is people, places, and things. 376 00:26:08,769 --> 00:26:14,219 As we walk down this muddy trail, you've been hiking before in mud, 377 00:26:14,219 --> 00:26:20,165 I'm sure, and you know how heavy your boots can get, sometimes it's 378 00:26:20,165 --> 00:26:23,785 time to stop and wipe the mud. 379 00:26:24,645 --> 00:26:29,675 The good mud's gonna stay with you up in them crevices, they know where to be. 380 00:26:29,974 --> 00:26:35,794 And the bad mud, it's, take time often and scrape it off. 381 00:26:36,115 --> 00:26:42,644 That way you can walk down that trail and make it further and have less 382 00:26:42,674 --> 00:26:49,395 exhaustion because you're taking the time to wipe the mud from your shoes. 383 00:26:49,685 --> 00:26:54,034 And that's the muddy life, muddy shoe life theory that I have. 384 00:26:54,475 --> 00:27:00,955 So people, places, and things, they, they are the things that influence 385 00:27:00,955 --> 00:27:05,024 us, control us, or make or break us. 386 00:27:05,444 --> 00:27:08,004 And we need to be able to control that. 387 00:27:08,544 --> 00:27:10,544 So wipe it off. 388 00:27:10,575 --> 00:27:12,555 That's, that's my theory of all of that. 389 00:27:14,004 --> 00:27:14,524 Uh, 390 00:27:17,135 --> 00:27:19,014 Yeah, you do. 391 00:27:19,074 --> 00:27:25,135 I like people spreading that because it really is the case. 392 00:27:25,574 --> 00:27:29,025 The mud is people, places, and things, control the mud. 393 00:27:30,615 --> 00:27:34,604 So yeah, we, we really need to change our world. 394 00:27:35,095 --> 00:27:42,715 And I recognize from your podcast that that's what you're doing, you're out there 395 00:27:42,755 --> 00:27:49,305 trying to influence people in the right way instead of, to just grab their money. 396 00:27:49,335 --> 00:27:53,254 And that really matters in our world the most today. 397 00:27:53,275 --> 00:27:57,374 And that's why I enjoyed when you popped onto the screen. 398 00:27:57,574 --> 00:27:57,874 Yeah. 399 00:27:57,874 --> 00:28:00,184 I want to talk to Kyle, that's for sure. 400 00:28:01,585 --> 00:28:07,669 And getting deeper into what Kyle does, it's kind of remarkable. 401 00:28:07,679 --> 00:28:16,449 We, we have a lot of the mindset in sync, and I think the focus is humanity. 402 00:28:16,450 --> 00:28:17,429 Mm. 403 00:28:19,709 --> 00:28:20,090 Mm hmm. 404 00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:20,670 Oh, yeah. 405 00:28:21,469 --> 00:28:22,779 Yeah, I totally agree. 406 00:28:23,009 --> 00:28:25,639 And there was a translation that popped up in my brain when you 407 00:28:25,639 --> 00:28:28,639 said, it was, Change our world. 408 00:28:31,189 --> 00:28:35,629 Take out the L, Change our word, and add S. It's not Change the 409 00:28:35,629 --> 00:28:37,389 world, it's Change our words. 410 00:28:41,009 --> 00:28:43,050 Mm. Yeah. 411 00:28:43,919 --> 00:28:45,590 That's, that matters a lot. 412 00:28:45,979 --> 00:28:49,360 Uh, I'm, I'm finding that out more and more. 413 00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:53,549 Because I used to not think about what I said, I would just flop it out. 414 00:28:54,179 --> 00:28:58,669 And the harm that that does to people that's close to you, 415 00:28:59,419 --> 00:29:01,719 it really does matter a lot. 416 00:29:02,459 --> 00:29:12,705 So, you know, living life is, is a joy and you can have abundance in so many ways if 417 00:29:12,705 --> 00:29:22,464 you find, to be just a simple person in life instead of needing to be a rock star. 418 00:29:23,114 --> 00:29:25,354 Let, let the rock star just happen. 419 00:29:25,355 --> 00:29:29,485 I think that's a better way to flow. 420 00:29:32,915 --> 00:29:33,485 I agree. 421 00:29:33,535 --> 00:29:35,894 I like that, I like that quite a bit. 422 00:29:36,155 --> 00:29:37,975 Yeah, allow the rock star to happen. 423 00:29:38,689 --> 00:29:39,259 Yes. 424 00:29:40,089 --> 00:29:42,749 Because then, because then it really gets, yeah, I like that. 425 00:29:42,949 --> 00:29:44,359 That's very nice, it's a good visual. 426 00:29:47,059 --> 00:29:47,409 Yeah. 427 00:29:48,259 --> 00:29:52,340 So, so what is your focus on the world, Kyle? 428 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:57,925 What, what is the most disrupting part of the world that you find people 429 00:29:57,925 --> 00:30:00,875 need to focus on to implement change? 430 00:30:02,435 --> 00:30:07,054 Uh, the problem that I see is also a problem that I've experienced, and 431 00:30:07,054 --> 00:30:11,474 it was a dependency on the external world to fulfill my needs and desires. 432 00:30:14,485 --> 00:30:23,415 Uh, I think that there's, I think that we, now, couple points on this one. 433 00:30:24,765 --> 00:30:26,175 No, actually no, going with this one. 434 00:30:27,215 --> 00:30:30,895 A majority of what we learn in school is what to think rather than how to think. 435 00:30:31,865 --> 00:30:36,874 And so when we leave school, we're still trained to just do what we're told. 436 00:30:36,875 --> 00:30:39,415 So when we go into the workforce, it's basically an 437 00:30:39,415 --> 00:30:42,015 extension of our school course. 438 00:30:42,515 --> 00:30:43,894 Or school force, there we go. 439 00:30:44,754 --> 00:30:49,704 And the thing that's dangerous with that is there can be, 440 00:30:50,685 --> 00:30:53,035 uh, internal, uh, conflict. 441 00:30:53,715 --> 00:30:57,955 Because folks have been adopting stories that other people have said, you want 442 00:30:57,955 --> 00:31:00,475 to go to school, you want to go to post secondary, you want to get married, you 443 00:31:00,475 --> 00:31:03,825 want to, uh, have a job, you want to have kids, you want to have school, you want to 444 00:31:03,825 --> 00:31:08,459 have a car, and then you'll hit retirement at the age of sixty-five or seventy. 445 00:31:08,474 --> 00:31:11,985 And what you can find is that folks will get to that end point, and then 446 00:31:11,985 --> 00:31:15,660 they're going to be, they're not going to know who they are because so many 447 00:31:15,670 --> 00:31:17,420 other people told them who they are. 448 00:31:18,260 --> 00:31:24,480 So when we decrease dependence on other, on the external world, period, just 449 00:31:24,570 --> 00:31:29,510 external world, when we decrease the expectation for the external world to 450 00:31:29,550 --> 00:31:35,500 tell us who we are, that presents us the opportunity to figure out, and not even 451 00:31:35,500 --> 00:31:39,630 figure out who we are, it's to remove the stories that we've adopted to show 452 00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:42,890 the rock star, to show who we truly are. 453 00:31:43,710 --> 00:31:46,920 Cause it's, uh, the stories are like the mud, they're just adopted 454 00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:49,035 stories that we've carried. 455 00:31:49,155 --> 00:31:52,395 And then we can remove the stories and figure out, and not even figure out, 456 00:31:52,395 --> 00:31:55,045 I keep on saying figure out, but it's not true, it's, because the person's 457 00:31:55,055 --> 00:32:00,555 already there and it's just removing the layers to allow that person to shine. 458 00:32:01,395 --> 00:32:05,775 And I truly believe that most peeps are well intentioned. 459 00:32:06,285 --> 00:32:06,905 And 460 00:32:09,005 --> 00:32:13,455 they have so much possibility and so much potential, and they have 461 00:32:13,455 --> 00:32:18,755 so much heart, and they have such a desire to help, and they have these 462 00:32:18,765 --> 00:32:22,964 stories that are, or these narratives that are lingering in their mind 463 00:32:23,350 --> 00:32:26,550 that is creating resistance for them to make progress. 464 00:32:26,550 --> 00:32:31,030 And it's a fear, it could be a rejection, it could be a self sabotage 465 00:32:31,030 --> 00:32:34,590 or procrastination, which I would define as actively participating 466 00:32:34,590 --> 00:32:35,800 and preventing our progress. 467 00:32:36,510 --> 00:32:41,450 Uh, and when we figure out the resistance, remove the resistance. 468 00:32:41,870 --> 00:32:47,560 Then we can allow us, ourself, with capital S, to shine through. 469 00:32:48,020 --> 00:32:50,159 So, it's the, I want 470 00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:54,139 sovereign, savage servants. 471 00:32:54,180 --> 00:32:58,709 I want folks that are autonomous out there, thinking for themselves, 472 00:32:59,300 --> 00:33:03,119 knowing that they are on a journey, that they're bettering themselves, 473 00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:05,980 they're continuously bettering themselves, and they're bettering the 474 00:33:05,980 --> 00:33:07,760 world around them as a side effect. 475 00:33:09,070 --> 00:33:11,160 The world is just going to happen as a side effect. 476 00:33:11,210 --> 00:33:13,915 If they're freaking crushing it, they absolutely can. 477 00:33:14,385 --> 00:33:18,375 So I, it's the adoption of other people's stories. 478 00:33:19,215 --> 00:33:22,135 And another thing as well is, 479 00:33:24,370 --> 00:33:28,700 when people, to get people thinking about their thinking, they become more 480 00:33:28,750 --> 00:33:31,370 questions people than statements people. 481 00:33:31,420 --> 00:33:34,020 They ask more questions than they want to give statements. 482 00:33:34,550 --> 00:33:39,039 Because when we start to think about our thinking, we don't 483 00:33:39,039 --> 00:33:42,060 have a biased uh, uh, concept. 484 00:33:42,490 --> 00:33:45,930 And I think that it's, when you're having a conversation with a person, 485 00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:50,965 when you get three questions deep in a conversation, that's when you get 486 00:33:50,965 --> 00:33:55,415 to the meat and the potatoes of what the individual thinks of, not what 487 00:33:55,415 --> 00:33:56,935 their cookie cutter responses are. 488 00:33:58,165 --> 00:34:02,675 And when that opportunity comes up where they can show it, then it 489 00:34:03,405 --> 00:34:05,635 shows them that they can do that. 490 00:34:06,044 --> 00:34:11,634 So I believe that when people get to a level of consciousness where 491 00:34:11,634 --> 00:34:14,715 they're helping and they're like being able to support people, 492 00:34:14,935 --> 00:34:16,485 not force people to change. 493 00:34:16,505 --> 00:34:19,294 But supporting people in their decision to change, because we 494 00:34:19,294 --> 00:34:20,334 can't force people to change. 495 00:34:20,334 --> 00:34:21,385 That's silly. 496 00:34:21,835 --> 00:34:24,455 If no one can force us to change, we can't force another person to change. 497 00:34:24,725 --> 00:34:25,105 Logic. 498 00:34:25,985 --> 00:34:31,474 And so with the questions, we're able to bring the, the, the person out and be 499 00:34:31,475 --> 00:34:36,135 able to get more information and be able to contrast that with our own thinking 500 00:34:36,145 --> 00:34:40,675 to see where we may be faulty and where we're on point and be able to support. 501 00:34:40,995 --> 00:34:45,155 And if it's someone, if it's a heated conversation, like, if it's someone 502 00:34:45,165 --> 00:34:51,535 wild about whatever their thing is, in that case, like, ask more questions. 503 00:34:51,695 --> 00:34:53,055 Just listen and ask more questions. 504 00:34:53,055 --> 00:34:59,475 Because when we ask more questions, then they have to substantiate. 505 00:34:59,475 --> 00:35:02,045 They have to reinforce what their claims were. 506 00:35:02,605 --> 00:35:06,845 And once again, three questions in, if they don't know the deeper details, 507 00:35:06,845 --> 00:35:09,625 they're not going to be able to, uh, last very long in the conversation. 508 00:35:12,915 --> 00:35:13,585 That's true. 509 00:35:13,925 --> 00:35:15,124 Yeah, I like that a lot. 510 00:35:15,665 --> 00:35:21,704 You know, and, and the big part there is when, when you do that 511 00:35:21,704 --> 00:35:26,564 instead of responding, when you respond with a question, it makes the 512 00:35:26,564 --> 00:35:29,034 individual think a little deeper, too. 513 00:35:29,554 --> 00:35:36,285 And that actually de escalates when you are throwing questions 514 00:35:36,285 --> 00:35:39,065 out instead of responses out. 515 00:35:39,135 --> 00:35:39,595 Big. 516 00:35:40,565 --> 00:35:46,295 You know, there, there's a lot of people that are very unaware 517 00:35:46,315 --> 00:35:48,964 of that communication skill. 518 00:35:49,335 --> 00:35:51,734 So I, I applaud you for that. 519 00:35:52,914 --> 00:36:00,345 What, what part of the world are we going to be part of is the big question. 520 00:36:00,355 --> 00:36:04,094 Because there's the doers and the takers. 521 00:36:05,325 --> 00:36:14,785 So I find that a lot of people making a difference are doers and not takers. 522 00:36:15,165 --> 00:36:21,405 And what I mean by that is they're willing to give of themselves before 523 00:36:21,405 --> 00:36:25,284 they expect anything in return. 524 00:36:28,190 --> 00:36:34,370 How can we spread more of that value in our world with our communication 525 00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:40,179 like we do here on podcasts and on people's social media? 526 00:36:41,010 --> 00:36:46,079 Because I really think that's where this influence starts is, 527 00:36:46,370 --> 00:36:55,770 if we can control the amount of negativity into our social sphere. 528 00:36:56,570 --> 00:37:05,960 So, how do we teach people how to be more positive in their presentations instead of 529 00:37:07,980 --> 00:37:12,830 all of the negative that we've been witnessing over the last several years? 530 00:37:16,809 --> 00:37:18,500 Well, a couple parts on that one. 531 00:37:18,500 --> 00:37:22,850 When it goes to the subjective individual, don't pay attention to it. 532 00:37:23,570 --> 00:37:27,780 Because then we're out of the loop of it, so then we're not consuming it. 533 00:37:28,050 --> 00:37:31,770 So that would be like a consumption, being mindful of consumption 534 00:37:31,770 --> 00:37:33,170 rather than mindlessly scrolling. 535 00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:38,350 Finding something to have mindfulness rather than mindlessness. 536 00:37:39,670 --> 00:37:42,370 Uh, so that would be the, on the subjective. 537 00:37:42,630 --> 00:37:45,950 And I believe that if someone was like, if someone was spending less time on 538 00:37:45,950 --> 00:37:48,759 their phone and they were doing other things, they're just going to happen 539 00:37:48,940 --> 00:37:52,020 across being a more positive, I believe. 540 00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:59,145 And then from the macro, uh, from the macro, I'm actually, I think 541 00:37:59,145 --> 00:38:00,645 I might challenge you on this one. 542 00:38:00,705 --> 00:38:02,964 I have an, this is an interesting thought is popping up. 543 00:38:03,564 --> 00:38:12,135 I would not want to control anything on it because that would be the exact same 544 00:38:12,145 --> 00:38:18,300 thing as, so both all negative and all positive on the extremes are delusion. 545 00:38:19,730 --> 00:38:20,370 That's my thought. 546 00:38:20,790 --> 00:38:23,870 So if everything, if everything was catered to positivity, then 547 00:38:23,870 --> 00:38:25,590 we'd be ignorant of the negativity. 548 00:38:25,660 --> 00:38:27,549 And if we're only seeing the negativity, then we're going to 549 00:38:27,549 --> 00:38:29,340 be ignorant of the positivity. 550 00:38:30,570 --> 00:38:36,640 And yeah, and I think that that, that is a, it's a challenge. 551 00:38:36,930 --> 00:38:40,370 And so with that challenge, then it becomes more 552 00:38:40,370 --> 00:38:41,790 intentionality behind the use. 553 00:38:41,830 --> 00:38:44,710 Because I don't think that there's anything, I don't think a tool is 554 00:38:44,710 --> 00:38:49,440 inherently negative or positive, it's the practitioner behind the use of the tool. 555 00:38:50,660 --> 00:38:55,805 So we can have a hammer and if we're standing in line at the DMV, 556 00:38:56,005 --> 00:38:59,825 holding the hammer like a phone, that's not a proper use of the tool. 557 00:39:00,335 --> 00:39:03,894 And a tool, and that hammer could be used to build, or it could be used to destroy. 558 00:39:05,205 --> 00:39:09,845 And so I think it's going to be the intentionality behind, one, the 559 00:39:10,485 --> 00:39:12,444 intentions behind the person posting. 560 00:39:13,464 --> 00:39:16,275 Because they could be just negative, and if they're negative enough, 561 00:39:16,275 --> 00:39:17,655 just like, block them, whatever. 562 00:39:18,285 --> 00:39:22,875 Uh, and then, oh, where was I going on that other part? 563 00:39:22,885 --> 00:39:25,755 So then there's the negativity, and then that challenge. 564 00:39:26,785 --> 00:39:30,415 It is a challenge where, then we are more mindful behind 565 00:39:30,415 --> 00:39:31,755 what we're consuming with that. 566 00:39:32,505 --> 00:39:32,765 Yeah. 567 00:39:33,685 --> 00:39:35,354 That's how I would take that one. 568 00:39:35,355 --> 00:39:35,895 That's how I would go. 569 00:39:39,145 --> 00:39:39,385 Yeah. 570 00:39:39,385 --> 00:39:41,384 I think that's big, huge. 571 00:39:41,484 --> 00:39:45,835 You know, consuming the proper things. 572 00:39:45,945 --> 00:39:51,025 Because, you know, I do go out, I consume on a research basis and I 573 00:39:51,025 --> 00:39:56,710 run into a lot of things that I would not normally even put myself into. 574 00:39:57,240 --> 00:40:02,870 So controlling that influence is very, very important in our life. 575 00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:07,639 And I, I do want to recognize that as a very positive influence 576 00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:09,879 on this talk for people. 577 00:40:10,199 --> 00:40:13,259 Just learn to control what we consume. 578 00:40:13,259 --> 00:40:16,910 And, and that doesn't only go with information, that goes 579 00:40:16,910 --> 00:40:19,250 with everything in our life. 580 00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:24,400 You know, uh, everything should have a balance. 581 00:40:24,805 --> 00:40:27,125 And our universe is balanced. 582 00:40:27,125 --> 00:40:34,965 If it's off balance, there's storms and things to set it back in to balance. 583 00:40:35,555 --> 00:40:39,614 So, it's interesting to have these good conversations. 584 00:40:39,615 --> 00:40:46,095 And when we challenge each other with thoughts, it can change how we think. 585 00:40:46,405 --> 00:40:48,435 And I think that's pretty important. 586 00:40:49,525 --> 00:40:51,085 That's why I like podcasting. 587 00:40:51,085 --> 00:40:54,845 I totally agree. 588 00:40:55,705 --> 00:40:56,255 Likewise. 589 00:40:56,615 --> 00:41:00,735 Dude, I, yeah, conversations, it's, it's beautiful. 590 00:41:00,735 --> 00:41:04,235 Because conversations, if someone is interested in the conversation for 591 00:41:04,244 --> 00:41:10,265 the sake of conversation rather than having a conversation to be right, then 592 00:41:10,525 --> 00:41:16,135 that's, that's a different frame, that, that creates like a really good vibe. 593 00:41:18,465 --> 00:41:18,885 Yes. 594 00:41:19,355 --> 00:41:23,745 Yeah, because that's, that's my way of changing the world. 595 00:41:24,125 --> 00:41:27,195 I'm not right, I, I have no clue. 596 00:41:27,255 --> 00:41:30,854 I'm, I'm here to understand my world. 597 00:41:31,134 --> 00:41:34,645 And that's what I'm looking for is better understanding. 598 00:41:34,964 --> 00:41:39,245 And when I understand people better, I understand my world better. 599 00:41:39,635 --> 00:41:42,375 And that's what the Dead America Podcast is about. 600 00:41:42,745 --> 00:41:49,835 You know, we all feel dead sometimes, but I'm here to say, It's all what 601 00:41:49,835 --> 00:41:55,205 we think, and what we consume, and how we choose to do that. 602 00:41:56,135 --> 00:41:57,435 So, yeah. 603 00:41:57,435 --> 00:41:59,205 It's exciting what we're doing, Kyle. 604 00:41:59,505 --> 00:42:05,885 Uh, what, what, what plans do you have for your podcast in the future? 605 00:42:08,745 --> 00:42:15,325 Well, presently, I'm taking a break from the podcast for this year, for 2025. 606 00:42:15,925 --> 00:42:17,425 So 2024, I took a break. 607 00:42:18,345 --> 00:42:21,605 Where now I'm focusing more on being a guest on podcasts than a host. 608 00:42:22,435 --> 00:42:29,075 And then, 2025, six months in I might, you know what? 609 00:42:29,094 --> 00:42:32,164 Honestly, I can't say with certainty so I, I'm thinking that'll be 610 00:42:32,165 --> 00:42:34,215 another break month, or year, sorry. 611 00:42:34,215 --> 00:42:36,510 And then it's just focusing on the practice. 612 00:42:36,660 --> 00:42:41,590 And developing the, well, developing everything, just making it awesome. 613 00:42:45,950 --> 00:42:47,920 Well, that, that's a good thing. 614 00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:52,929 You know, being on podcasts, that can actually make us a 615 00:42:52,929 --> 00:42:54,970 better podcaster in many ways. 616 00:42:55,129 --> 00:42:59,320 I enjoy, you know, going on podcasts and speaking. 617 00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:05,820 Because the more we speak with others, the better we are inside of ourself. 618 00:43:05,850 --> 00:43:08,630 Because we care about what's going on. 619 00:43:09,830 --> 00:43:10,810 It's a big key. 620 00:43:11,390 --> 00:43:15,889 Do you have anything you would like to add to our conversation today, Kyle? 621 00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:21,369 Uh, yeah. 622 00:43:21,369 --> 00:43:24,840 I'll leave, one thing that I like to share and it's a mantra of 623 00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:29,745 my own that I remind myself of very often, so I'll share it out. 624 00:43:30,285 --> 00:43:32,365 And it's to keep up the kindness. 625 00:43:32,875 --> 00:43:36,735 And uh, when I say kindness, I don't think of it as a feeling, I don't think 626 00:43:36,735 --> 00:43:41,844 of it as an emotion, I believe that when we see kindness, we recognize kindness. 627 00:43:42,974 --> 00:43:49,065 And by practicing kindness, by practicing being kind, both internally 628 00:43:49,085 --> 00:43:52,855 and externally, and I would actually argue more importantly internally, 629 00:43:52,875 --> 00:43:56,205 because then we're going to have a better external relationship. 630 00:43:56,635 --> 00:44:00,600 When we keep up that kindness, people are going to feel that kindness, 631 00:44:00,660 --> 00:44:01,850 they're going to give that kindness. 632 00:44:02,700 --> 00:44:04,660 And the better that we can keep up that kindness, the more 633 00:44:04,660 --> 00:44:05,530 kindness you're going to be. 634 00:44:08,810 --> 00:44:09,830 I like that a lot. 635 00:44:10,510 --> 00:44:17,650 Uh, Kyle, how can people find you and, you know, participate with you? 636 00:44:20,030 --> 00:44:20,500 Sweet. 637 00:44:20,909 --> 00:44:26,059 Uh, on any social platforms, I'm DapperDudeKyle, D A P P E R, Dude, 638 00:44:26,089 --> 00:44:32,290 D U D E, Kyle, K Y L E. And you can find website links or anything there. 639 00:44:32,570 --> 00:44:36,799 Uh, Instagram is the prime one where I'll be able to respond the quickest there. 640 00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:42,070 And shoot me a message, let's have a conversation. 641 00:44:45,380 --> 00:44:46,960 Heck yeah, that's what it's about. 642 00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:51,080 I enjoyed our conversation today, Kyle. 643 00:44:51,460 --> 00:44:57,919 It's always pleasant to, you know, have a deep conversation, get challenged 644 00:44:57,919 --> 00:45:02,629 in your own thought, and recognize others for who and what they are. 645 00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:06,925 And what you're doing is very important to our world. 646 00:45:06,945 --> 00:45:12,005 And I want to say thank you for that and thank you for being here today and sharing 647 00:45:12,005 --> 00:45:13,835 with us on the Dead America Podcast. 648 00:45:15,315 --> 00:45:16,855 Thank you very much for having me, dude. 649 00:45:16,855 --> 00:45:17,955 It was a pleasure. 650 00:45:21,655 --> 00:45:23,364 Thank you for joining us today. 651 00:45:23,985 --> 00:45:30,195 If you found this podcast enlightening, entertaining, educational in any way, 652 00:45:30,975 --> 00:45:37,425 please share, like, subscribe, and join us right back here next week for another 653 00:45:37,425 --> 00:45:40,785 great episode of the Dead America Podcast. 654 00:45:41,085 --> 00:45:46,570 I'm Ed Watters, your host, enjoy your afternoon wherever you might be.